I have a new love in my life, I love her but it doesn't mean that my kids will, in fact there is a really good chance they won't. But that is okay.
The worst thing you can do is to become frustrated or angry at your kids for not feeling the same way towards your new partner as you do. you can't force love and if you try what will likely happen is your will make it even worse. Let face it, it works both ways, my kids have friends they like and I really don't.
If your lucky everyone will get along and cohabitation will go semi smoothly. This will vary with the age of the kids, toddlers will be easier them hormonal teens.
the key is not to force it, there will be time you do stuff with your kids and your new partner will not be involved, and that is fine. You will do things with your new partner and not the kids and that is equally fine.
Your new partner can't take it personally if the kids don't want to be around them all the time. Even as parents there are plenty of time that our kids don't want to be around us.
You can't force a happy home life. family dynamics change and sometimes they ae good and other times it is awful. the key is to let things develop on their own. Only stepping in if someone is being rude or disrespectful.
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