This is a little off topic but it was divorce and remarriage that brought me to a point where I am starting to come to grips with that I need to Love the Children I have and not the ones I think they should be.
As children grow they change, and as they change they become their own person, their own personalities with their own interests. As this happens those evolving personalities will go their own directions and not necessarily be the interest you as a parent have.
I struggled and was frustrated because I kept saying things like.... They should be, why don't they.... When will they. I wanted them to do things the way I did, like the things I liked, get excited about things I got excited about. In most cases they didn't, not because they were bad kids, they were just their own kids, own interests.
My frustration grew and grew....why are they not doing and liking what I like. Finally I have come to grips with that fact they are not little versions of me. They are unique, they are not me, and that was hard to come to grips with.
I look at my life, I have done some good things and made some bad mistakes, I have been constantly evolving, I was shy as a child and young adult then broke out of it. my children are still evolving and being like me, and liking what I like does not guaranty them success, so why do i keep pushing my likes on them?