Going through a separation people will tell you,...the kids will be fine,...the kids will adapt,.... the kids want you to be happy,...the kids will understand. A lot of people will have a lot of opinions(present company included), but your kid(s) are individuals and how they react to will depend on the individual.
The one thing I can guarantee is the experience of living though their parents separating will change them. No child wants their parents to break up.
I am not saying it is all dome and gloom concerning the kids but it will effect them. The key is, like with any relationship communication. It has to be good communication, not bad mouthing your x-spouse. Don't expect the communication to be there immediately, it takes time for the kids adjust to the new reality of life with parents in separate house holds. Just stick with it.
In my case it took several years for the communication to come back. I had to get my life back together first, get ride of the hate and animosity. You can't expect the kid(s) to open up and be at peace if you aren't at peace. If you want them to adapt, to come to terms with what has happend them you have to lead by example and make peace with what has happened.
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