The beginning of a new year gives us a chance to reflect. This is my second new year being separated. Last year at this time I was unemployed, recently separated and missing my kids incredibly as I sat in my mostly empty house. I had no job prospects and the money was starting to run out. I continued to pay child support with money I didn't have but I didn't want the kids to suffer. Oh and I was feeling very lonely
This year, I have a job, I am slowly filling up the house, I have the kids this New Years eve, I have "head hunters" calling me offer potential jobs, I have got a new to me car. I am no longer lonely, I have reconnected with my children and I have also reconnected with some friends as well.
Things have turned around. It is true that you have to hit rock bottom before you can climb up, I hit rock bottom back in February 2010, I will tell you about it in another post in the new year. I am proud that I have managed to climb my way back, it was not easy, I have stuck to a few principles I felt were important and they have paid off. I have adjusted to the new reality of being separated.
I know that I am on the right path but I still have a long way to go, this is a marathon not a sprint. I have goals set out and I am working on a plan to achieve them.
To anyone out there that is going through separation/divorce and you are wondering if you can make it...the answer is YES. Hold true to what you believe is right, getting out of a negative relationship takes time to recover from. Don't fall back into bad habits, avoid getting into a relationship with someone who is like your "X". I almost did it, and I look back now it would have been a disaster. Believe in yourself and things will turn around for you.
Just because things look dark today does not mean they will tomorrow. Change is the one constant in the Universe
Happy New Year All.
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